Message of The Week by: Reverend Dawn Gikandi. No comparison, no criticism! Dear Parent/Guardian, I really appreciate all the LORD has enabled you to do for your child/children. Remember, this child is God's. Be a faithful steward and caregiver. Allow me to share a few tips – from first-hand information – on what has contributed to depression and suicidal thoughts. The good news is that you, yes you, can make the much-needed difference. Here are some requests from children, young and old: 1) Do help me to be my best; but please do not compare me with any other – directly or indirectly. 2) Though I have your DNA (deoxyribonucleic acid) and/or upbringing, I may not be like you are or what you hoped to be. Besides, mine are different times and different challenges. 3) It's your duty to discipline me; but please do not discipline me in public or in front of my siblings/others. 4) Be firm; but please do not use abusive language or behaviour to me. Don't criticise me. It doesn't help at all. 5) I know I've made lots of mistakes, some that I may not even be aware of, but I'm really trying my best. Kindly give me some leeway. 6) I need your love, presence and thoughtfulness, more than what you provide. 7) Have time with me, alone and not with my sibling(s) – possibly a different environment from home. Dear Son/Daughter, I may not know how best to let you know this: 1) No matter how old you are, I'm always concerned about your well-being. 2) Do understand that I'm trying my best, though you may not see it that way. 3) You may not agree with all my decisions but, regardless of that, I need your respect and love even in verbal and non-verbal communication. 4) I know I've made lots of mistakes, some that I may not even be aware of, but I'm really trying my best. Kindly give me lots of leeway. 5) Be honest; but please do not use abusive language or behaviour to me. Don't criticize me. It doesn't help at all. 6) I'm not perfect; but please do not compare me with any other – directly or indirectly. 7) Your life, presence, good health and safety are of paramount importance to me; more than your performance in education or at work. Dear all, 1) Having been wounded, does not give you the right or excuse to wound yourself or others. Wounded people end up wounding even those they should have protected. 2) Your worth isn't determined by material stuff, but by wealth of character. 3) Kindly learn what is important to the other person – though you may not agree or relate with that. 4) Release to God the pains of the past or present and fear of the future. Make the most of what you have. Forgive yourself and others, so that you may have strength for the journey ahead. 5) Never underestimate God's capability and purpose for your life! Blessings.
